God Speaks I Listen

Yup!…that’s what I use to think every day for many years from about 1962-1982!!  Thank God I’m still here and here’s my story:

I am going to share something today that the Lord told me yesterday to share with you.  It’s very very personal and I have not told this publicly in detail like this before.  It’s very hard for me to relive this and share this story.    I’m sure the Lord has His purpose for this, and I pray that it will be a blessing to someone who needs to hear it.

For the first 32 years of my life (I’m 60 years old now) I felt very unhappy and sad inside.  By the time I was 12 years old… all I thought about was that I was a mistake to have been born.   I hurt inside and I didn’t want to be here on this earth anymore.  My first suicide attempt was when I was about 12 years old… I took a bunch of my allergy pills.  The next morning, I was shocked and sad to wake up and still be alive.

I noticed people didn’t really like me and I surely didn’t like myself at all. I felt the 2 people who were supposed to love and like me didn’t. When I was 18, I tried to go to college and failed.  I tried to keep a job…failed.  Everything I did in my life was a failure.  I didn’t know it at the time, but I had and still have a learning disability and chronic illnesses which I know contributed to my situation.

I was a married woman with 3 daughter’s ages from 1 to 8 and I was suffering from major depression every day.  My sadness was unshakeable.  I cried off and on all day every day. I also suffered with extreme chronic fatigue.  My husband was so patient and kind and understanding and stood by my side through all of this.  I thank God for Him!

A few years went by, and I managed to raise my girls.  They never knew these things about me when they were little.  I was super mom to them.  There were lots of days I had no energy and I thank my mom for taking them to the park several times a week.   There were other friends who would treat my kids to special outings or take them for a few days.   My depression and suicidal thoughts were starting to get much worse.

Then the worst event happened.  This one day…I was so depressed that I just wanted out of the internal pain.  I felt very very HOPELESS.  I was not a committed Christian although I had gotten saved watching Billy Graham as a child, and I did love God very much…but I was not committed to Him.

I was crying all day long.  While two of my girls were in school, I decided to kill myself.  I wasn’t thinking clearly at all.  I put my 3-year-old daughter down for her afternoon nap and I then went into the kitchen and got a long kitchen knife. I turned it backwards and started to stick it in my chest so that it would go through my heart which was hurting so bad.  As I pushed it into my skin, my 3-year-old daughter tapped me on my leg and said “mommy”.  I dropped the knife and picked her up hugged her and cried.

I never heard her come down the stairs and walk up on me.  This is what happens when suicidal thoughts come. Negative thoughts come in your mind and takes it over.  These thoughts try to get you to harm yourself. You feel totally hopeless!  You feel as if nobody in the world understands your despair. You are in a TRANCE.  Reality is blocked from your mind!  All you can see, and feel is the pain and nothing else around you.  You don’t even realize what you’re about to do!  You don’t even care if it’s going to hurt!  I called my husband at work, and he rushed right home.  That day I knew I needed emergency help.  I had gotten counseling before, and it didn’t help…so this time I decided to sign myself into a mental institution.

That was one of the darkest days of my life!!!!!  I left my 3 beautiful girls and signed my life away for a month to try to get the help that I needed.  Let me tell you…it was a total shock to me.  When I got there, I thought I was really crazy, and I was very embarrassed!!  When they take you in, they take away everything you have. They have to check you out for marks so that no one can say they injured you.  I was in the suicide watch unit, so I was being monitored 24 hours a day.  I was just so embarrassed to be there, but I knew that I needed to be because I was going to take my life in the worst way.  After counseling, therapy and weeks in the hospital I was released.  When I got home, I was no better!!

A thought came to my mind of the only person that I thought might be able to help me.  Someone tried to tell me about Jesus a few years before and had basically beaten me over the head with the bible.  They did give me a bible to keep.   I had a talk with God and told Him that if He didn’t help me out that I was not going to be here because I was going to check out of here on my own.  I cried really hard as I felt I was at my total end.  I opened the bible and it opened to Psalms 86.  I read and cried and reread it and cried.  My tears fell on that page and soaked that bible.  And then something incredible happened to me.   I was healed of depression at that moment but didn’t know it then.  Let me explain this.

I had always been a crafty person, and someone had given me a dozen of silk roses when I was in the hospital.  I cut them up and made corsages out of them and sold them all.  Then I bought more flowers and books on floral design and made many more floral arrangements.  Then a friend asked me to make the flowers for her wedding and I did that.  I started making floral arrangements and selling them.   On the weekends my husband, our kids and I would sell at the craft fairs.  Before I knew it the depression was almost gone.  And then, the best thing that EVER happen to me happened….I became a committed Christian.  I gave myself over to the Lord 100%!!!!  My family and I joined a wonderful church and learned about God…we were nurtured by loving Christian people.

Guess what?  I was completely healed from depression!!!!!  No more internal pain….No more hopelessness!  No more hating myself!  No more confusion in my mind…I finally HAD PEACE!!!! I finally have peace!

I want to tell you that today 2013….I am happy!!!!  I am so happy!!!!  I know the purpose for my life!…I feel God’s love for me!….and I know where I’m going when I transition from this earth!!!!  I get God’s mercies new EVERY morning when I wake up…I get peace for my mind….I get grace to see me through EVERY situation that I face….and I have hope!!!!  I have Jesus Christ to thank for this!  Many of you who follow my blog know how much I love the Lord because I say it often.  This testimony is one of the reasons why I love Him so much.

I just want to say here that God deals with us as individuals and may use a different method to help you.  You may need counseling and medication for a time, or He might do something different with you. I know that asking God for help was the answer that changed my life.

God told me that I was always knocking on the door of hell trying to get in and He had to keep sending the angels after me every time I tried to kill myself.  I thank God that I am in my right mind today!!!!  What a miracle!!!  I love this mighty and powerful supernatural being…I love my God…He’s My Father in Heaven and I worship the ground He walks on!!!!!!

Romans 10:9  That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

Isaiah 26:3 You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you: because he trusts in you.

John 14:23 Jesus replied, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.

1John 4:19  We love because he first loved us.

This is me Tanya Nemley healed by the Grace of God!

I’m finally Happy.  It took many many years!

A PRAYER FOR ANYONE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION RIGHT NOW…….

Father God…the person reading this right now is in need of your help.  God…they are feeling very sad and hopeless.  It seems there’s no sunny days for them and they have tried so many different things for help.  I pray that through their sadness that they will call on you for help.  

I ask you to send help to every person who is seeking you for peace in their mind.  It’s so hard for them to cope but it’s not hard for you to heal.  Lord…hear their cry and dry their tears.  Heal their hurting heart.  Give them a peaceful sleep tonight.  Let them feel your love.  Cover them with your grace.  Thank you, God, for healing me when I cried out to you for help.  Thank you in advance for the healing people who read this prayer.  I ask these things in Jesus’ name…Amen.

                         Please…Hang in there!!!!  OK?

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 

Update November 2025 ….…I’m still doing well emotionally and mentally 42 years later, and I thank the Lord for that!!!
Many, many people are choosing to do what this topic is about more than ever before. I feel so bad for anyone who is thinking about attempting this. I want to say this to you. Please, please, please, please don’t do this!!!!!!!!!!! Why? Because looking back I can see the hopeless state my mind was in and I know now that this would have cause so much PAIN for my family.

Also, I have done so many good things with my life in these 42 years. I cannot and other people cannot jump into your mind and make you not want to do this. You can’t even help yourself when you are this far down! BUT THERE IS A WAY OUT OF THE DARKNESS AND THE DEEP SORROW YOU FEEL IN YOUR HEART! Make the decision to get out of the deep emotional pit by any lifesaving means necessary!!!! I have been there! It can be accomplished.

Fight for your peace of mind. When you cry hard, when you think nobody understands the hurt in your heart…. people do! Friends, family, people in the medical profession are waiting for you to reach out to them!!!! The darkness wants to take you over…but don’t let it. Don’t succumb to the darkness trance with is a place where you can only feel your deep pain, and no one can pull you out of the deep hole. You know what I’m talking about!

Reach out! Pick up the phone and call someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God helped me to live so I can talk to you! Get help right now, this minute!!!! I was where you are now. I fought for my sanity and won! You can too! You need to be with someone or talk with someone! I can’t be there in the room with you, but I pray that you are continuing to read this and that you are calming down a little.

Come on! Get a tissue and blow your nose and wipe you face. Listen to me…. you will get through these next few minutes, hours, days. You are going to fight for yourself! Come on say this “I will get more help for myself!” “I deserve to live!

I want you to come back to this blog and let me know you made it! Maybe you can one day help someone too! But for today make the decision to …….Live! Will you please do that!