Bullying and God’s real plan 4 my life


Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior in which someone intentionally and repeatedly causes another person injury or discomfort. To seek to harm, intimidate, or coerce someone who is perceived as vulnerable. It’s behavior that hurts, harms, or humiliates a person, either physically or emotionally.  Sometimes the bully doesn’t even realize their actions are a form of bullying.

The first bullies in my life were my parents.  I was ALWAYS messing up ( bad grades, my room etc.) so I was ALWAYS in trouble for something.  I could never do anything right.   The next bullies were a few classmates and teachers.  Next was my abusive ex-husband. Over the years it has been many church leaders.  And finally, some family members.

I read a story this morning of yet another child who was bullied and laid across railroad tracks and was killed by a train.  My heart broke and I cried a little.  I thought of how I really understood how that kid felt.

I thought of all the bullying that I have and am presently going though and what it has done to me.  Bullying has been painful for me, but is a part of who I am.  I looked at who I am, and I thought of what all this bullying has done to me.  I feel I’m different from other people and that has made me a target, but it has also made me a better person.  I’m very aware of other people’s feelings and care about others a lot.  I live to make other peoples lives more pleasant.  I try to encourage other people who are down.  I’m a soloist and the songs I sing are to encourage others and I sing them with great intensity.

Bullying has truly changed me as a person.  I’m always fighting the awful effects of what was done to me by other people’s words and actions.  Everything that has ever been done to me is lumped together into one big basket and at times that basket presses down on top of my head. When I feel that weight of all that negativity, I push the basket off of me.  This basket can appear on me if I’m sick, tired or have just been freshly bullied. Unfortunately, it’s a plague that I will be fighting off until the day I die.

 I’m very aware of these attacks now and I can get rid of them whenever they occur by doing this: James 4:7 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.  I now know my self-worth because of my Christian faith and because I know what I need to do to get in a better place mentally. In the bible it says this about my life:  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well Psalms 139:14.

 Life experiences has been a good teacher for me in how I have gotten through past bullying situations.  I also have a wonderful husband who has been a great support for me as well as a great counselor who has helped me over the years when I needed her.

Beginning at age 12 years old, bullying almost made me take my own life.  I’m grateful for a miracle from God that I was healed from suicide attempts and depression caused by bullying over 36 years ago. No one should have to live their life being attacked by bullies. It’s a fact of life that bulling has been going on since the beginning of mankind and will always be here. Bullies are perpetrators of mental violence on innocent people who are never looking for any kind confrontation from anyone.  Evil hearted people are going to be who they naturally are.

This is what the bible explains as to their behavior.

John 8:44 You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

1John 3:10 By this the children of God are distinguished from the children of the devil: Anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is anyone who does not love his brother.

(When Christians bully it’s called….”sin” because of 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8)

Victims of bullying must learn how to internally and mentally respond to bullying so that it doesn’t destroy them from the inside. We must learn how to protect ourselves from the toxic people. This is our responsibility to do this for ourselves. We should never hate bullies.  We should practice forgiveness for our benefit and healing.  God wants us to pray for those who do this to us because He is the one who deals with evil behavior and His justice is very tough.  They will need our prayers. 

I have taken my cue about being bullied from Jesus who was bullied, beat up and killed.: Luke 23:34 Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.

These are some great quotes that I found on line that I felt were very good on this subject:

The goal of an adult bully is to gain power over another person and make himself or herself the dominant adult. They try to humiliate victims, and “show them who is boss.”

There is little you can do about an adult bully, other than ignore and try to avoid!

Project confidence. Self-confidence is your best weapon against a hater. Laugh off insults, drop witty comebacks, and stay positive. If you don’t let your confidence slip, a hater is more likely to get frustrated simply start leaving you alone.

For example, if someone insults your art, take the high road. Try saying: “I’m sorry you feel that way. 

If someone calls you “weird,” you could say: “Maybe a little, but I like who I am!!!

When you are walking by someone who hates you, don’t look down or lean the other way. That kind of posture tells the hater that you’re afraid, that you’re giving the hater what he or she wants. Instead, stand up tall with your head held high.

Don’t be rash. Haters feed on your emotions. If you respond quickly and emotionally, there’s a good chance that you won’t be able to make a strong point. If you lash out, you will only give them more reason to make fun of you. Do not let your words be clouded by anger and frustration. Give yourself the time to cool down before you respond.

Odds are that on some level, they are uncomfortable with their own identities. Some people even act hatefully because they are jealous,

Don’t let other people’s opinions rent space in your head. You have better things to think about and more positive things you could be focusing on.

Don’t care. Think: are these people going to be in your life forever? Probably not. Surround yourself with those who make you happy!

Try to avoid them as much as possible.

Instead of worrying about the hater and letting it ruin your life, try to think about things that make you happy instead. Yes… one cannot get anything by worrying, but put your worrying act into a positive thinking and achieve a great rest…


Is God real? My personal Thoughts

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You don’t get another chance to change your mind after you die to accept Jesus Christ…so make sure you’ve really considered Jesus as your Savior.

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2 weeks ago I listened to a man on Facebook who said that he was a pastor and now he’s an atheist. His Facebook post was so upsetting to me because I know that nothing can separate me from God if I was truly a Christian so what about this former pastor?  This former pastor expressed how the whole bible was a lie and that there is no God and he said it very convincingly. He said he lost his friends and that he got suspended from his job after he posted his video on Facebook. This scripture came to mind after I looked at his video.

Romans 8:35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?

 Ephesians 3:19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge–that you may be filled to the measure of…

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Don’t be scared of tragedy


Another killing in our country. There are a lot of things going on in this world. I pray this blog I wrote a while ago can help if you are going through something.

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Psalms 56:3-4  When I am afraid, I will put my trust in You.  In God, whose word I praise, In God I have put my trust; I shall not be afraid. What can mere man do to me?

God speaks I listen and share this with you today……..

People are just going crazy and killing people for little and unsound reasons.  Malls, schools, movie theaters, stores, colleges, office buildings and just about anywhere can become a killing ground.

1 Peter 5:8 Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.  The devil’s control of an unsanctified mind could affect us.

Those who do not have Christ residing in them are prey for the enemy (the devil) who will get them to do any evil act.   Innocent people are victims in the wake of their terror.

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God’s World God’s Way


(Understanding hard trials)

Earth and all the Humans on earth belong to God!  Everything pertaining to this world goes His way, with His plan and His order of things.  God calls the shots period.  He created this world and has all rights to it and us!  Originally this world was perfect.  God says this Himself over and over again in Genesis 1 “God saw that it was good.” Then Sin entered this world in Genesis 3:6.  God had a plan to redeem us. Why did He create a plan?  Because of this wonderful scripture verse…John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

Why am I saying all this?   I have been through and are presently going through really difficult trials.  I still love God like crazy and I don’t blame God for my pain and suffering now.  I use to in the past.  Why God why?  When are you going to help me God?  Why are you letting me suffer God?  Why did you take that away from me God? When are you going heal me God?  I’ve learned that it’s His world and His way and I need to get with His program and not mine!  Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD.  Our joys and sorrows are all in God’s plan for us.  There is NOTHING that we go through that is a shocking to God.  He doesn’t get any enjoyment out of seeing us suffer either.  In fact He has given us an amazing way through all we go through.  It’s called…Grace.  One of God’s attributes is that He is merciful!  I need to pray about my need and say to God…”I really love and trust you no matter what happens to me!!!

Now I’m about to give you another powerful point.  When you know for an absolute fact that God really loves you….you understand that no matter what you go through that no situation can separate you from Him and from His love for you.  Reassurance of God’s love will hold you up under ANY extremely difficult trial you may face! I have learned to say what Job said… Though he slay me, yet will I trust in him: but I will maintain mine own ways before him.Job13:15

My next powerful point in dealing with suffering is knowing who you are in Christ. I need to be reassured in my mind that Jesus time here on earth and sacrifice at the cross was for my good in every aspect my life.  Jesus trip to the cross guaranteed me that my name is written in the Lambs book of life.  Also when Jesus left this earth He sent the Holy Spirit who lives in us and helps through every aspect of our lives!!! God DOES have our backs!!!

Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego said these words to King Nebuchadnezzar when they were going to be burn up in a furnace “If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to deliver us from it, and he will deliver us from Your Majesty’s hand. 18 But even if he does not, we want you to know, Your Majesty, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.” Daniel 3:17-18.  Did you read those words…”EVEN IF HE DOES NOT DELIVER US”.  Now those are some trusting words there.  Why are those words so significant? 

Because when you know that God loves you, sent His Son to die for you and that your name is written in the Lambs book of life…you can endure anything that’s throw at you because:

1. You know to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord so what can man or the devil do to you.

2.  We love God Just because of who He is and not just because of what He does for us.  When we love God just because of who He is, we are freed from using Him like a genie in a bottle.  We pray and wait for His answer.  We just flat out trust Him in the way He answers our prayers… no matter what!!!

3. God always has your back.  You may not always feel that He does but HE DOES!   When you study His word you WILL know what God can do for you.  That knowledge will give you that “hang-in-there” strength you need.  God can give you unbelievable grace when you’re waiting for an answer to your prayer request.

Now to you it may sound harsh for me to say it’s His world and His way…but the reality is that…it’s a fact.  Life in general is a though road.  Nobody has it easy.  But you have to look at the big picture which is God wanted a human to be His real child.  He created a planet for them to live on.  Since He is so holy and set apart…nobody just gets a free ride to be His very own child. A blood sacrifice had to be given.   So God got His only Son to give His life so that we would have all that we needed to have an abundant life on earth and eternal life in heaven.  It’s His plan and His way…that’s it.  You may not like how He does things.  You may not understand some of the harsh things He allows to happen….but it is what it is.  His world His way.  It’s the way God does things.  We can pray and ask for help but we cannot force Him into doing what we want Him to do for us.

We have to take a page from Job: He replied, “You are talking like a foolish woman. Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?” In all this, Job did not sin in what he said. Job 2:10

We must love God and just love Him period.  Let our love for God stand alone.  God’s greatest attribute is His love for us.  Don’t look at God in the view of our troubles.  That will cause us to judge and question Him and say…why God why? 1 Peter 4:12 Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you.

God is not springing anything on us.  He warned us in His word that things will be challenging for us.   Jesus did a lot for us so we can make it in this world. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 Yes there is going to be trouble.  His world His ways.

Let me tell you…I have my ways…ask my husband and my children.  In my house whole I made the plans and rules and my kids jobs was to obey me….period.  I birthed them and I was responsible for all their care.  I took that job very seriously.  It was a great responsibility!!  Well God took on the responsibility for the humans He created.  He held back nothing for us to prosper.    He gave His only Son to make sure the plan would come out perfect!!!  He could do all that because He made us!!!  He has that right and it’s His way.

So for me….I had to get with His plan!!!!!  I’m not a fan of His plans because they hurt, are sometimes painful and difficult to get through.  But I see the big picture that He has for me that He’s written out in His word.  I keep my mind on all that He’s promised me in this life and the next.  I reach out and accept the grace He’s already prepared to help me.  I’m fully covered!!  I look back in my life and remember all the times He has bought me through.  I’m sure there will be some difficult days ahead, but I know God is there to see me through.

My mom suffered so in her last 3 years of life.  I always heard her talk about how good God was to her.  She praised Him with her last breath.   In her last year she made it her mission to tell everyone to put God first.  At this time she was having daily seizures after having had a few strokes.  But she kept listening to her praise music and worshiping God.  She was always praying to God. 

In the hard times we must immerse ourselves in pray, worship, and meditating on the word of God.  He promised to help us in this life.  When we cross over to His heavenly realm to our unimaginable eternal life, we will receive rewards for our suffering and we will NEVER go through any more pain ever again!!!  Come on children of God….we can do this!  God knows what HE’s doing!  He loves us and has perfect motives for our survival through this life.  Let’s close the book on our own plans for our lives and open His book for the plans for our life.  We are HIS CREATIONS!  He set this whole thing up.  It’s His world and His way….let jump on His band wagon!

(Homework assignment…Look up the words to “It is well with my soul” and sing that song to yourself. Also read the story behind that hymn.)

God bless you!!

Dear “God Speaks I Listen” followers,


I know that you are aware that I haven’t been posting lately.  I have had brain fog because I have suffered with a chronic illness and find it difficult to concentrate and to write.   I started blogging in 2011 and I can tell you it’s been a real miracle because of the learning disability I suffer with.  I have shared so much over the many years of blogging.  I’ve told my most difficult challenges and my happy times too. 

The most important times I’ve shared has been about my intimacy with God.  I’ve shared how much God loves me and you.  The big take away here in my blogs is about putting God first and sharing the gospel of Jesus Christ with others!  Jesus has made all this even possible!!!

I may write something in the future if I feel the Lord leading me to do so.  I want to leave that open door. But for this season I will concentrate on doing His will with the time God has graced me to be here on this earth.  I’m desperate for the world to know my Jesus so their souls may be saved and destined for heaven.

I have met so many people on WordPress that I call my friend like Debbie: Musings by an ND Domer’s Mom, Sherline’s Watchu Thinkin’ Blog, Jeanne: WOMEN’S WINDOW: Tricia’s Journal Jots Blog, and many others.  Thank you so much for your friendship.

Please think about all the things I’ve shared.  It took me soooo long to write each blog.  I did it to share how GREAT God is and how much He loves you!  I give God all the praise for what He has allowed to do post on WordPress.

Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen. Jude 1:24-25

Love you all,

Tanya Nemley

New Years Message 2019


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You know that God is in you. Do you feel Him in you? He wants to be a part of your everyday life. He gave you life and bought you for a price. When you accepted His Son Jesus as your Lord and Savior… God became your Father and now He owns you. All He ask is that you love Him and love others. You need to praise Him not for Him… but for your own sake. When you praise Him you have His attention and He inhabits your life and your inner man in a deep and personal way. When you need Him He’s right there. Because He owns you… you’re His responsibility now. Father God takes care of His Children!!!

This coming year 2019 you will need to be keenly aware of His presence! You need the security of being able to sense that He’s very close to you. This is done by praising and worshiping Father God. Praise Him while the sun is shining because when it starts to rain things can become very challenging. If you learn to praise and worship Father God in the sunshine then when the rain comes you can endure and maintain your joy much easier. There have been many nights of weeping for many people in 2018 and the weeping will not stop going forth. The earth and everything in and around it is in hard labor. Jesus return is coming soon. Gods worshiping children will experience strength, comfort, endurance, peace and will have great hope and will be blessed with amazing grace!!!

You don’t need to go to a place of worship to praise Father God. Praise Him in your heart all day and night wherever you are. Everything you need to know to get through 2019 is in the bible. Study and meditate on God’s word daily. Worship is going on in heaven right now and we should be doing this also down here on earth. Don’t be distracted by everything that is going on in this world right now. Be distracted in a good way by your worship and praise to God.

The song for 2019 is…

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Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus

O soul are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s light for a look at the Savior
And life more abundant and free

Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace

Through death into life everlasting
He passed, and we follow Him there
Over us sin no more hath dominion
For more than conquerors we are

And turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace

His word shall not fail you, He promised
Believe Him and all will be well
Then go to a world that is dying
His perfect salvation to tell

And turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace

And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace

Please don’t read this blog and go on your merry way. The rain is falling on the unrighteous…but the righteous are being affected too!!! Danger and situations are affecting everyone. The peace you need is the real peace that only God can give. God is your help! Man is limited in how he can help man. People are crying out to God for help because God CAN WORK IT OUT FOR YOU!

I’ve been warning people about events and things for many years. In 2008 I posted in my New Year’s blog that things were going to get rough because God was going to do His own thing His own way. Many things have happened since I posted that blog.

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My husband and I were saved/born again as kids but we both ignored God’s voice calling us to be committed to Him. God turned up the heat (trials…suffering). It was so hard to deal with so much turmoil in our lives that we both cried out to God for help. That was 30 years ago since we became committed to God and started living like how God wanted us to live. Life was still difficult at times… but when I look back I can see all the help and all the strength God gave us to make it through every trial!!!

With what I know about the drama coming in 2019 …if you don’t make a change in your life to put God first…to love Him like crazy…then when the storms come you will feel like you’re in a boat all by yourself in the middle of the ocean.   Oh the horror of that feeling!

I don’t want to be a Debbie downer here today….I’m throwing out to you life perseveres… releasing some life boats and anything else that can help somebody avoid inner turmoil, stress and a feeling of hopelessness. What do you do when your back is against the wall? What do you do when a fire, flood, hurricane, tornado, mass killing, accident, illness, etc. comes across your path? What will you do if the devil whispers in your ear that nobody cares about you and you need to take your own life?

I know…you will…Praise and worship the Lord your Father God and submit to His will and His way!

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This is how God can help you when you put Him first. After you wake up from an operation the pain is really bad. As soon as the nurse sees that you’re awake she rushes over with a needle and injects you with pain medication and immediately the pain stops. The incision is still there but the nurse was able to make you comfortable. Jesus is able… by the power of the Holy Spirit… to comfort you! Not only is God helping with the pain but He is also working on helping you through the problem too.


Lastly for 2019 God wants you to be assured of His love for you! The only way you will know this is by studying the bible AND by praying/talking to Father God very often. There are no short cuts for this. Believe the bible and converse with God.

I pray for all of you for 2019….that you can see that things on this earth are steadily getting worse and the way to have less stress and to get peace of mind is your relationship and interaction with Father God. These declining earthly things have been predicted in the bible so this is no surprise to us. But seeing it happening and experiencing it… it is unsettling and surreal. In the past several years I’ve had a family member shot and killed, endured extreme damage due to hurricane Sandy, had a family member commit suicide as well as many of my friends have lost loved ones to suicide also. I’ve endured cancer and illness, financial crisis, etc. Without Jesus love, compassion and help….I’ve never could have made it!!!!

Turn you eyes upon Jesus!

2019 Praise the Lord with your lips and in your heart!!!

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Wickedness and God’s Judgment

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Genesis 6:5
Then the LORD saw that the wickedness of man was great upon the earth, and that every inclination of the thoughts of his heart was altogether evil all the time. At the time of Noah every person except for Noah and his family had wickedness in their heart. That is not the case today…but there is a lot of wickedness and sinfulness on this earth right now. God is NOT a fan of this kind of behavior.

Romans 1:28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. This scripture was taking about sexual sins but there is a lot of that going on in today’s world.

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God don’t play!
Folk’s betta stop changin’ up His word!
Stop watering down the bible!
Changing laws that go against God’s word!
Stop disobeying God!
Repentant for your wrong doings!
Stop making your own plans!

God is love but………..Because of who He is….pure and holy….He demands that ALL…EVERYONE bow to His power and authority or else! He gives plenty of mercy and grace…but when you cross the line that he set up…then justice will be served whether you think it’s fair or not. God’s world…God’s rules!!!

You don’t have to follow if you don’t want to but be warned…there will be a price to pay. Jesus paid a very high price so that you can be right with His Father. But if you do things your way you will pay a very high price for your rebelliousness.



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Many people think that God is mean and sadistic! They think this is not the way a loving God should act. You can say what you want to about His rules. God is not moved by how you feel about Him. The people who think God is horrible when something bad happens is a person who doesn’t understand or know who God really is.

You learn who God is by 4 things:
1. The bible
2. The holy Spirit
3. Prayer
4. Trials and victories

Psalms 33:8 Let all the earth fear the Lord; let all the inhabitants of the world stand in awe of him!

You have to “get God”. When you get Him you love Him just because of who He is. This doesn’t mean you understand His ways…it just means you know that He is set apart from anything in your realm of normal. You understand that God is supernatural. You understand that He has made provisions to take care of you here on earth and after your death. After accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior you have built in assistance by means of the Holy Spirit. You are good to go!


This scripture verse really moves me to tears for those who go against God’s word or for those who are following a sinful lifestyle…….It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. Hebrews 10:31 other versions use the words terrifying and fearful. GOD DOES NOT PUT UP WITH SIN!!!! When people go against God we all suffer for it. God’s children also suffer in calamities.

So the big controversial question is….Has the increase in catastrophes in the past several years have anything to do with God’s judgment on mankind?  I do know that humanity’s  rejection of Jesus Christ and  living wickedly is NOT helping our situation. I know from the following scripture that God predicted these things will happen:   2 Timothy 3:1-5 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. We are experiencing a decline in morality which can lead to judgement from the power that be.  That be…God.  God have mercy on us!
So what now? What do we do? We are all at risk at being caught up in the cross fire. But don’t fear, live a righteous life, stay prayed up and know your bible. Be careful, wise and alert. Do what you can to keep you and your family safe. This is the big thing for me….I feel God is telling me to do what He’s asked me to do which is to build His kingdom by spreading the gospel of Jesus Christ and making disciples. I must also keep my eyes on Jesus and stay focused!

We all are seeing an escalation of really horrible catastrophes and we will see much more in the days, weeks and years to come. We know that the whole creation has been groaning like the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Romans 8:22. As labor progresses the pain gets worse. The planet earth is in distress with all the earthquake, fires, floods, tsunamis, volcanos, mudslides, sink holes and tornados. Man is plagued with illnesses, extreme wickedness and mental deterioration.

It has been so surreal to watch the news now that I feel numb because things are happening so often. It’s not shocking anymore sadly… it’s almost expected. It has caused me to pray much more and to stay real close to God. This is the new normal now. This old hymn really says it all:

Turn your eyes upon Jesus
O soul, are you weary and troubled?
No light in the darkness you see?
There’s light for a look at the Savior,
And life more abundant and free!

Turn your eyes upon Jesus,
Look full in His wonderful face,
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
In the light of His glory and grace.

Through death into life everlasting
He passed, and we follow Him there;
O’er us sin no more hath dominion—For more than conqu’rors we are!
His Word shall not fail you—He promised;


Believe Him, and all will be well:
Then go to a world that is dying,
His perfect salvation to tell!


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